SATURDAY DECEMBER 14
“Point
your kids in the right direction.” Pr 22:6 TM
DICTATOR,
DOORMAT OR DIPLOMAT? (3)
The “coach/trainer”style.
These parents provide direction by teaching and example, modeling respect,
responsibility, safety, trust and maturity in how they treat the child. They
are “in charge,” yet always preparing the child for the “in charge” role in due
time, delegating authority to the child when they are ready. Respect, not
intimidation, is used to train kids, understanding that a respectful child will
follow the rules even in your absence. Responsibility is modeled by the parent’s
refusal to make (or accept) excuses. Independence is encouraged by how well
children handle limits and controls. The parent is solution-focused; forgiving;
acknowledging their own failures; and directing kids to the future, not the
past. These parents choose their battles wisely, avoiding damaging arguments
but holding the line in matters of faith, respect, trust, honesty,
responsibility and consequences. Mistakes are used to teach, not shame. Such
parents are transparent, admitting their shortcomings and apologizing when it’s
necessary. The rules are clear, consistent and fair. They don’t issue repeated “warnings,”
and consequences apply without exception. Administering discipline is done with
nurture, respect and reassurance. What are the pulses of the style? It provides
kids with a safe, protective, loving environment of learning, while you, the
parent, model respect, responsibility, trust and autonomy. Movement toward
adulthood is a joint parent-child project. What are the minuses of this style?
None!
Taken
from the Word for You Today Devotional
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