WEDNESDAY NOVEMBER 20
“Two
people are better off than one…If one…falls, the other can reach out and help.”
Ecc 4:9-10 NLT
GETTING
THROUGH TOGETHER
Amy Simpson says: “When our children were four and
six, I discovered I was…pregnant. Two weeks later, I miscarried, sending us on
an emotional rollercoaster…While I recuperated, my husband held up wonderfully,
but as soon as I was physically well, the loss hit him…He was withdrawn…didn’t
want to visit his family…he just wanted to be home, [whereas]…I wanted to forget…move
on…be around people. When a couple faces something that affects them
differently, how do you make it work? (1)
Tell your spouse what you need. Sometimes emotions are so overwhelming you
don’t know what you need. Do you need space? Do you want to talk? Do you want
to be around people or be alone? Listen to your mate’s feelings. You may both
have different needs. (2) Deal with the
core issue. My husband didn’t want to visit his family…and we talked and
discovered the real issue was he didn’t think they would be very supportive—plus
he didn’t have the energy for a seven-hundred-mile road trip! (3) Be willing to compromise. I wanted
to do something fun even if it wasn’t with his family. We were able to meet
both our needs by getting together with family members closer to home. (4) Get help. Sometimes there’s no way
to compromise. One spouse wants to talk and the other can’t bear to bring it
up. Find a counselor, or a Christian friend who can temporarily fill the gap.
Having others pray with and for you makes a huge difference. But protect the
intimacy in your marriage, and don’t let anything or anyone come between you
and your spouse.”
Taken
from the Word for you Today devotional
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